Wearing clothes you don’t really like. Doing jobs you would REALLY prefer not to. Eating foods you wish you weren’t. Living your day to day life in a way that feels like “URGH! This is NOT what I really want to do. This is NOT how I want to live my life”.
“This slightly (or hugely) dissatisfied, flat feeling, uninspired person is NOT WHO I REALLY AM!”
And you would be right.
It’s NOT who you really are.
And therein lies some powerful truth that can help you:
1. Feel better and more at peace with how things are in your here and now
and 2. Shift you focus so you can start to change things for the better.
Pull out some paper or a file on your phone or computer and try out this 3 ‘S’ process: State. Soothe. Shift.
Write down what is happening right now that isn’t how you want it to be, or a situation that comes up a lot. State what is happening and/or describe what emotional STATE you are in
Example – “Right now, I am having to clean my home in my spare time when there are SO many things I would rather be doing.”
– “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough.”
– “I am feeling flat and uninspired.”
Write ‘AND’, and add some soothing, gentle, general responses to that which highlight the temporary, changeable nature of your here and now.
Example: “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough and that’s OK. It’s where I am right now. It’s not big deal. It does pass. I don’t ALWAYS feel worried.”
Shift your focus onto who you really ARE. You see, the reason you feel crappy about ANYTHING is because it is out of alignment with the TRUTH of who you really are. You wouldn’t feel badly unless the real you wasn’t different to who you are being at this moment.
So, knowing this, add to your above statement’s “because who I really am is….”
Example: – “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough and that’s OK. It’s where I am right now. It’s not big deal. It does pass. I don’t ALWAYS feel worried because who I REALLY AM, is a prosperous, wealthy, abundant woman. Who I really am is someone who is positive and trusting and at ease about money. “
– “I am feeling flat and uninspired and that is temporary and will change because who I really am is an intuitive, creative and productive being. Who I really am is a person who is connected to the stream of energy that makes up everything, and who is connected to an endless source of fun, interesting and good feeling ideas”
How you are feeling is OK. Where you are is all right and simply a step on your journey. Let the feeling of relief wash over you as you release needing to FIX what is happening right now.
Let the sensation of EASE and LIGHTNESS set in as you realize that your current feelings or situation is temporary and always changing in reflection of your current thoughts and beliefs.
Let the feeling of TRUTH and EMPOWERMENT sink in as you re-connected with the power of who you really are: An eternal, loved, worthy, powerful, creative being who can be/do/have anything you desire.
You can’t make positive changes when we are pushing back against and being annoyed at how we don’t want things to be.
I find this process super beneficial in both making peace with where I am (read: stopping the mental push back!) and connecting me with my real, higher self which then allows me to naturally choices that are more aligned with that.
P.S. We do fun and powerful process like this each day over on the (free) Living Alignment Facebook group, where we walk the talk of consciously creating lives we ADORE with ease, fun and flow. Come join us:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livingalignment/