What you would do differently if you had what you desired right now?
THAT is the path to it!
Sometimes your makeup brushes can be like magic wands, I realized as I was applying my blush and mascara today.
That an intentional practice of caring for and doting on ourselves can make huge shifts in the manifestation of our desires. Of how we create and allow our dream lives to unfold like magic.
You see, part of being a courtesan of life, of being in this fun, sensual, playful, powerful energy state that naturally attracts a life I absolutely love,
Is adorning myself. Is treating myself like the worthy, gorgeous queen I am. This often translates into applying makeup even if I never leave the house. Or using beauty products I enjoy. Or dressing in certain clothing.
Not because I have to. Not because I feel less than without my adornment but because my adornment is about celebrating and adoring myself. It is embodying the person I really am. Which IS a queen. A powerful sorceress of energy. A courtesan of life.
It is about creating a mood of what it is I enjoy and what I want to manifest more of in my life.
Wearing clothes you don’t really like. Doing jobs you would REALLY prefer not to. Eating foods you wish you weren’t. Living your day to day life in a way that feels like “URGH! This is NOT what I really want to do. This is NOT how I want to live my life”.
“This slightly (or hugely) dissatisfied, flat feeling, uninspired person is NOT WHO I REALLY AM!”
And you would be right.
It’s NOT who you really are.
And therein lies some powerful truth that can help you:
1. Feel better and more at peace with how things are in your here and now
and 2. Shift you focus so you can start to change things for the better.
Pull out some paper or a file on your phone or computer and try out this 3 ‘S’ process: State. Soothe. Shift.
Write down what is happening right now that isn’t how you want it to be, or a situation that comes up a lot. State what is happening and/or describe what emotional STATE you are in
Example – “Right now, I am having to clean my home in my spare time when there are SO many things I would rather be doing.”
– “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough.”
– “I am feeling flat and uninspired.”
Write ‘AND’, and add some soothing, gentle, general responses to that which highlight the temporary, changeable nature of your here and now.
Example: “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough and that’s OK. It’s where I am right now. It’s not big deal. It does pass. I don’t ALWAYS feel worried.”
Shift your focus onto who you really ARE. You see, the reason you feel crappy about ANYTHING is because it is out of alignment with the TRUTH of who you really are. You wouldn’t feel badly unless the real you wasn’t different to who you are being at this moment.
So, knowing this, add to your above statement’s “because who I really am is….”
Example: – “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough and that’s OK. It’s where I am right now. It’s not big deal. It does pass. I don’t ALWAYS feel worried because who I REALLY AM, is a prosperous, wealthy, abundant woman. Who I really am is someone who is positive and trusting and at ease about money. “
– “I am feeling flat and uninspired and that is temporary and will change because who I really am is an intuitive, creative and productive being. Who I really am is a person who is connected to the stream of energy that makes up everything, and who is connected to an endless source of fun, interesting and good feeling ideas”
How you are feeling is OK. Where you are is all right and simply a step on your journey. Let the feeling of relief wash over you as you release needing to FIX what is happening right now.
Let the feeling of TRUTH and EMPOWERMENT sink in as you re-connected with the power of who you really are: An eternal, loved, worthy, powerful, creative being who can be/do/have anything you desire.
You can’t make positive changes when we are pushing back against and being annoyed at how we don’t want things to be.
I find this process super beneficial in both making peace with where I am (read: stopping the mental push back!) and connecting me with my real, higher self which then allows me to naturally choices that are more aligned with that.
P.S. We do fun and powerful process like this each day over on the (free) Living Alignment Facebook group, where we walk the talk of consciously creating lives we ADORE with ease, fun and flow. Come join us:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livingalignment/
If you could hear what goes on in my head, and sometimes you can cause I say it out loud to help me focus, you would think I was crazy.
I felt frustrated, discouraged, overwhelmed and hopeless. Thoughts rushed though my head, not happy ones! And they were getting more and more negative. They were extrapolating into other subjects.
Was time to turn that ship around! So I start picking other thoughts. I talk myself down off the negatively ledge. I get angry. That’s feels a bit better. I get annoyed. That feels a bit better than angry. I get pessimistic. That feels a bit better.
Now that I am there, more neutral thoughts are able to creep in. I feel a bit calmer. More accepting. I cry a little as the resistance releases. Now that I am a bit more clear headed, I physically get up and change location. I decide to drop letting the situation be a reason to not feel good. I decide I will not let a change of ‘plans’ or my child or my unhelpful beliefs be an EXCUSE for not being who I really am..
I read some uplifting posts. I speak out loud to myself, choosing which feels better out of two similar thoughts. I feel good now. Calm. Content. Relaxed. Happy. I snap a pic so I can share the crazy (and the cute double baby chin) and write a post because I am now feeling all inspired and productive.
From crap to BACK on track. From anger to tears to calm to happy.
Within 10 minutes.
A roller coaster ride. One that’s mostly fun. One that is thrilling.
Which is the point of a rollercoaster right? To be fun and thrilling. Exciting and enlivening.
I met my husband out of the blue. Through a series of synchronistic moments, we were brought together one night and have been together ever since.
Meeting Ben was easy and fun. It took no effort or TRYING to make it happen. It just unfolded perfectly. And our relationship continues to be full of love, fun and connection. He is (one of my) favourite manifestation stories.
The photo above is from one of our first dates
We often recount that evening and enjoy pondering all the different elements that needed to happen in order for us to meet. It’s mind boggling! Universal forces at work for sure.
People have asked me how I was able to meet someone so simply. What was it that I did that allowed what I desired to just SHOW UP in my life.
So I took the time to look back and reflect on what I did that helped me to manifest my wonderful man.(more…)
I pose this question in the audio above as a means of inviting self-reflection and contemplation. I personally LOVE becoming more and more aware of where I am deliberately creating my life, and where I am still acting from old and unhelpful beliefs and patterns of thought.
Contemplation, as opposed to meditation which encourages you to quiet and detach from thinking, is the act of engaging in deep, reflective thought as a means of gaining insight.
I invite you to go somewhere quiet, relax your body, maybe have a journal handy to write any guidance or ideas you receive, and enjoy allowing your mind to meander and explore this topic.
The audio is under 4 minutes long but you may like to spend longer than this mulling over the ideas that come to mind. And be open to receiving more insight and inspired ideas over the next few days as the mental seeds planted by this contemplation come to fruition.
I had a conversation with a friend today and she was describing how something in her life wasn’t going well and people would say to her;
But at least you are healthy.
You can be thankful that you live in such a great house.
And those things are true. And wonderful. And ARE something to appreciate.
But when you are feeling afraid or helpless or worried or powerless,
Having someone tell you that you ought to be be grateful,
can feel dam well annoying.
That goes for trying to appreciate on your own too.
It can make you feel WORSE because a now you feel bad for not being thankful enough.
Or you end up putting a fake happy mask over the dread and anxiety you are ACTUALLY feeling.
In those situations,
trying to be grateful is doing no good.
The whole point of being thankful is to elicit within you a FEELING of appreciation.
If the opposite is happening, you are better off not writing your ‘3 things for which you are grateful’ list.
Sure, when you are feeling more neutral or in a more positive mind space, appreciation is awesome! And I can’t recommend it highly enough.
That’s because when you are in a more positive mood, it’s not such a big jump to CREATE the feeling of appreciation .
But going from powerlessness and worry… is too large a leap.
What to do instead?
Aim for feeling SLIGHTLY better.
Not all the way in love with life and brimming with gratitude.
Just slightly shift your focus onto a thought that feels a little more calming. A bit more broad. A touch more gentle.
‘I am doing OK. Not great, but OK’
‘This is tough but tough can get easier in time’
‘Breathe. Take in a breath. That’s all I need to do right now’
‘I don’t need to fix this all at once.’
You will know you have found a more helpful thought when thinking about it makes want to breathe a little sigh of relief. When you feel your shoulder relax a little. When you feel the worry lines on your forehead soften a smidgen.
Then keep doing that.
Choose a slightly improved thought.
Let yourself notice and acknowledge that you were able to every so gently shift the feeling within you.
Do that, and you are on your way to effortless, great-feeling, overflowing states of appreciation.