You sometimes make it so hard on yourself. You sometimes make it so complicated, this deliberate life creation stuff. You get so caught up in what you feel you need to do, what you hear from others, the various processes and tools and concepts you could implement, that you end up doing little, if ANY, of it.
You forget often how really simple it is. How EASY it can be. Can you let it be simple? Can you let it be easy? It’s OK for it to be simple and easy. It really is. (more…)
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Happiness isn’t really a CHOICE if some of your emotions are deemed wrong or inappropriate.
In those instances, happiness becomes the RIGHT choice and any negative emotions becomes a WRONG choice. And it is not freedom of choice if there are inherently right or wrong choices. ALL your feelings are valid. ALL your emotions are acceptable and right.
And from that place of understanding, we can make a true free choice about how we prefer to feel.
Have had an interesting pattern pop up over the last couple of days.
I would find a new source of information and those new-to-me ideas and concepts would throw me into a worry and doubt filled tail spin.
I binged on the new information
It used to happen a lot with health information. I would be feeling pretty sure and confident in how I would be progressing with what I was eating. Then I would read a book or article that often opposed that I was doing with convincing information and testimonials.
I would proceed to binge watch and read all about the new info until I was totally confused and feeling awful as I felt unsure, conflicted and unable to take a step forward due to over analysis. And in the last 2 days, this pattern arose again. This time, not with food info but with spiritual teachings.
As much as I enjoy opening my mind to new ways of seeing or approaching things, I was surprised how much it threw me. Threw me right off my good feeling vibe and down into the muddy waters of now I don’t know WHAT to think. Do. Believe! I felt paralyzed with doubt and fear.
And part of this I recognize as a good thing. It’s helpful to be triggered or to have your awareness expanded or have ingrained beliefs challenged and examined. Well, it’s all good really. All emotions and feelings are valid.Nevertheless, I felt confused and crappy. And I didn’t like it.
I drifted away from my own guidance into confusion and overwhelm
I quickly realized it wasn’t because the information may have been different or new or conflicting, I felt crappy because I deviated from my OWN inner information. My own intuition. My own clarity that comes from feeling what resonates truly and beautifully with me. My soul. My higher self. I drifted from my alignment.
What I was listening to was unhelpful to me. Not because the information wasn’t valid, but because it made me doubt my own knowing.
So I stopped the binge watching and reading. Acknowledged and noticed my lack of clarity and my fear that I was living my life, and therefore that I, was wrong. I let these feelings be. Without pushing them down. And then I asked myself: what do I know. What feels true to ME. What do I feel the resonance of truth with.
I tuned back into my own intuition.
And it reminded me that I believe in love. In unconditional acceptance and love. In the following of joy. In the belief that ultimately I am my own authority as I have my OWN connection to spirit/infinite intelligence.
(Which is ultimately what the teachings I were listening to were pointing to anyway)
So, my message to you today is the same as I give myself (as always. You know I write these post to process my own stuff right? 🙂 )
Take in new info, sure. Be open and willing to examine your beliefs.
But feel free to take or leave what is helpful based on what feels true and right for YOU (including this message.).
Connect with your OWN knowing. You own inner compass.
And I give you full permission to disregard what doesn’t deeply resonate with you.
Giving myself this permission too.
A client today told me how she had an important task that needed doing but was initially OVERWHELMED and hesitant at the thought of organizing and paying for it.
So she put the task on the back-burner of her mind temporarily and focused instead on the tasks that felt easy and ENJOYABLE for her to complete at the time.
And a short while later, the task was DONE.
With no hard EFFORT on her part.
Out of the blue, someone she had a meeting with offered to get the task done for her and it would be their pleasure to help her out. Some perfect timing then led to the task not only being completed quickly and easily by this person, but to a level that exceeded her expectations and at NO cost.
It all happened in a way she couldn’t have imagined. It was effortless, efficient and easy.
THAT, dear one, IS THE WAY LIFE IS MEANT TO BE.
It’s NATURAL for things to come naturally.
It’s NORMAL for life to be working out for you.
It’s not LUCK or COINCIDENCE,
It’s the natural OUTCOME of being in alignment with your true, whole, highest self.
Of ALLOWING the support, love and well-being that is ALWAYS flowing to you.
This client, instead of pushing herself to take action on the task when it felt difficult and hard, she chose to LET GO of needing to orchestrate the action steps herself and let the guidance and support of the universe assist her.
She focused instead on what felt fun and easy.
And her external world shifted to reflect that.
The seemingly complicated task was transformed to mirror the ease and efficiency she felt.
She CHOSE her energy state. She CHOSE ease. She CHOSE joy.
YOU can make that choice too.
It’s natural for things to be unfolding perfectly for you.
Are you willing to let them?
I woke up today on the grumpy side of the bed. In fact, I didn’t even wake up in my bed as I had slept with the bubba who was having a rough night.
This grouchy, irritated, off feeling continued into my morning. And as someone who is used to feeling really good, I can hardly stand being out of alignment.
Nothing in particular was bugging me. But when you are in that state, it also feels like EVERYTHING annoys you.
After a while I asked myself: how much longer am I going to use this (whatever it was, doesn’t matter exactly WHAT was aggregating me) as my excuse for not feeling good. For feeling disconnected from my true, higher, blissful feeling self.
I decided, not ANY longer.
I CHOSE to let that feeling go and CHOSE to head towards joy.
I didn’t get there all at once. It took some deliberate thinking and some soothing actions.
But above all it took my willingness to let go of the justifications for feeling bad and my conscious choice to feel better.
So how about you?
Are you willing to give up the excuses? No matter how valid they may be?
You always have a choice. And any choice you choose is OK. But it’s always a choice.
When you try to change something in your life, do you go straight into action mode?
Looking at what you need to DO to eat better or get a better job or find a partner.
What you need to START in order to get what you want.
Googling what the right action steps are so you can achieve what you have decided you need in order to be happy.
As helpful as taking those steps may seem
If you are holding on to what’s not serving you, what you want can not come into your life.