Have had an interesting pattern pop up over the last couple of days.
I would find a new source of information and those new-to-me ideas and concepts would throw me into a worry and doubt filled tail spin.
I binged on the new information
It used to happen a lot with health information. I would be feeling pretty sure and confident in how I would be progressing with what I was eating. Then I would read a book or article that often opposed that I was doing with convincing information and testimonials.
I would proceed to binge watch and read all about the new info until I was totally confused and feeling awful as I felt unsure, conflicted and unable to take a step forward due to over analysis. And in the last 2 days, this pattern arose again. This time, not with food info but with spiritual teachings.
As much as I enjoy opening my mind to new ways of seeing or approaching things, I was surprised how much it threw me. Threw me right off my good feeling vibe and down into the muddy waters of now I don’t know WHAT to think. Do. Believe! I felt paralyzed with doubt and fear.
And part of this I recognize as a good thing. It’s helpful to be triggered or to have your awareness expanded or have ingrained beliefs challenged and examined. Well, it’s all good really. All emotions and feelings are valid.Nevertheless, I felt confused and crappy. And I didn’t like it.
I drifted away from my own guidance into confusion and overwhelm
I quickly realized it wasn’t because the information may have been different or new or conflicting, I felt crappy because I deviated from my OWN inner information. My own intuition. My own clarity that comes from feeling what resonates truly and beautifully with me. My soul. My higher self. I drifted from my alignment.
What I was listening to was unhelpful to me. Not because the information wasn’t valid, but because it made me doubt my own knowing.
So I stopped the binge watching and reading. Acknowledged and noticed my lack of clarity and my fear that I was living my life, and therefore that I, was wrong. I let these feelings be. Without pushing them down. And then I asked myself: what do I know. What feels true to ME. What do I feel the resonance of truth with.
I tuned back into my own intuition.
And it reminded me that I believe in love. In unconditional acceptance and love. In the following of joy. In the belief that ultimately I am my own authority as I have my OWN connection to spirit/infinite intelligence.
(Which is ultimately what the teachings I were listening to were pointing to anyway)
So, my message to you today is the same as I give myself (as always. You know I write these post to process my own stuff right? 🙂 )
Take in new info, sure. Be open and willing to examine your beliefs.
But feel free to take or leave what is helpful based on what feels true and right for YOU (including this message.).
Connect with your OWN knowing. You own inner compass.
And I give you full permission to disregard what doesn’t deeply resonate with you.
Wearing clothes you don’t really like. Doing jobs you would REALLY prefer not to. Eating foods you wish you weren’t. Living your day to day life in a way that feels like “URGH! This is NOT what I really want to do. This is NOT how I want to live my life”.
“This slightly (or hugely) dissatisfied, flat feeling, uninspired person is NOT WHO I REALLY AM!”
And you would be right.
It’s NOT who you really are.
And therein lies some powerful truth that can help you:
1. Feel better and more at peace with how things are in your here and now
and 2. Shift you focus so you can start to change things for the better.
Pull out some paper or a file on your phone or computer and try out this 3 ‘S’ process: State. Soothe. Shift.
Write down what is happening right now that isn’t how you want it to be, or a situation that comes up a lot. State what is happening and/or describe what emotional STATE you are in
Example – “Right now, I am having to clean my home in my spare time when there are SO many things I would rather be doing.”
– “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough.”
– “I am feeling flat and uninspired.”
Write ‘AND’, and add some soothing, gentle, general responses to that which highlight the temporary, changeable nature of your here and now.
Example: “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough and that’s OK. It’s where I am right now. It’s not big deal. It does pass. I don’t ALWAYS feel worried.”
Shift your focus onto who you really ARE. You see, the reason you feel crappy about ANYTHING is because it is out of alignment with the TRUTH of who you really are. You wouldn’t feel badly unless the real you wasn’t different to who you are being at this moment.
So, knowing this, add to your above statement’s “because who I really am is….”
Example: – “I often worry and overthink money and about not having enough and that’s OK. It’s where I am right now. It’s not big deal. It does pass. I don’t ALWAYS feel worried because who I REALLY AM, is a prosperous, wealthy, abundant woman. Who I really am is someone who is positive and trusting and at ease about money. “
– “I am feeling flat and uninspired and that is temporary and will change because who I really am is an intuitive, creative and productive being. Who I really am is a person who is connected to the stream of energy that makes up everything, and who is connected to an endless source of fun, interesting and good feeling ideas”
How you are feeling is OK. Where you are is all right and simply a step on your journey. Let the feeling of relief wash over you as you release needing to FIX what is happening right now.
Let the feeling of TRUTH and EMPOWERMENT sink in as you re-connected with the power of who you really are: An eternal, loved, worthy, powerful, creative being who can be/do/have anything you desire.
You can’t make positive changes when we are pushing back against and being annoyed at how we don’t want things to be.
I find this process super beneficial in both making peace with where I am (read: stopping the mental push back!) and connecting me with my real, higher self which then allows me to naturally choices that are more aligned with that.
P.S. We do fun and powerful process like this each day over on the (free) Living Alignment Facebook group, where we walk the talk of consciously creating lives we ADORE with ease, fun and flow. Come join us:https://www.facebook.com/groups/livingalignment/
I pose this question in the audio above as a means of inviting self-reflection and contemplation. I personally LOVE becoming more and more aware of where I am deliberately creating my life, and where I am still acting from old and unhelpful beliefs and patterns of thought.
Contemplation, as opposed to meditation which encourages you to quiet and detach from thinking, is the act of engaging in deep, reflective thought as a means of gaining insight.
I invite you to go somewhere quiet, relax your body, maybe have a journal handy to write any guidance or ideas you receive, and enjoy allowing your mind to meander and explore this topic.
The audio is under 4 minutes long but you may like to spend longer than this mulling over the ideas that come to mind. And be open to receiving more insight and inspired ideas over the next few days as the mental seeds planted by this contemplation come to fruition.
Overeating, binge eating, emotional eating. For almost everyone I talk to and work with, these negative eating patterns are a sign. A symptom. A red flag showing you that something is off in your life.
Eating more than your body needs with accompanying negative emotions such as guilt, overwhelment, loss of control and embarrassment, tells you that there are other areas of your life where you feeling less than positive.